Marriage is an Social, Cultural, Emotional, Economical, Physical, Psychological bonding (SCEEPP) between an men and women. It is highly impossible to get a spouse who matches 100%. But it is important that everyone should know the limitation of
the spouse. Otherwise either one or both need to suffer. In most of the cases, the dominant person would suppress the feelings of his/her spouse which lead the spouse to suffer. Married couple can lead an happy life as long as there is no damage done in SCEEPP. We often see couples look very happy for few years and they started complaining about each other. In any relationships, we would look the positive on other person and life would go happily. Based on one’s skill and capability, it will take days to year to evaluate other person. As soon as we see any negativity on other person, the bubble will burst one by one.
How to maintain healthy relationships?
Trusting spouse would give happiness which also make his/her spouse more responsible
Zero tolerance may be successful in work life, but definitely not in family life. It needs certain level tolerance to understand spouse’s situation (like work life tension, financial issue). Based on the spouse’s situation one can act or help.
3. Provide personal space
Marriage does not mean that men and women needs to forget the personal goals and dreams. Everyone has personal space and it is important to spend time to grow personally and professionally. But it is important to make the spouse to understand the personal and professional goals and justify it in advance.
4. Good communication and Help each other
In a ever changing world, we may miss the commitment like accompanying spouse to dinner or present jewels for birthday, etc.. Due to some unavoidable circumstances
one may not able to achieve the promises. It is important to communicate and help each other especially in difficult times as soon as possible to avoid the conflict and mistrust.
5. Mutual respect
Married Couples needs to respect each other especially in-front of children and others. One would ready to face the consequences immediately or later if he/she disrespect spouse
in-front of others. So try to give respect each other.
6. Say Sorry
Nothing wrong to say sorry to his/her spouse for an mistake. Mistake will be forgotten immediately as a relief and good suggestion/advice may be given as a bonus from spouse.
7. No ego
Ego is a slow poison. It won’t takes us anywhere. Leaving ego make life happy
There is a famous quote “Men from mars and women from venus”. So even though men and women are human, it is not necessary that they would think and act similarly. Every married couples lead life happily if we understand the above quote.
Love and Live happily 🙂